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8 Actions That Get You Past Your Perfectionism

2/27/2020

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Perfectionism can cause paralysis. It creates fear and stops you from living your dreams. When you're worried about making everything perfect, nothing gets done. 

Try these tips to get past your perfectionism so you can move forward: 

1. Pay attention to your inner thoughts. Perfectionism can sneak up on you and take over your thoughts. Listen to your self-talk.
  • Try to stop negative thoughts such as, You're not good enough, or, Not like that! It must be perfect!
  • Substitute these negative thoughts with positive thoughts, like, This looks great! You did a good job. It's a fine effort.

2. Just get things done. When you're too focused on making everything perfect, it slows you down. Instead, remember to stick to a schedule and meet deadlines.
  • Make your standards realistic.
  • Focus on completing tasks on time instead of getting lost in the tiny details of each assignment.
  • Take action. Keep moving forward. Remember, you can improve, if you need to, as you go along.

3. Forgive yourself and others. Forgiveness can free you from perfectionism. Remind yourself that no one is perfect, and everyone has faults. Learn to forgive yourself and others for mistakes.
  • Try to find beauty in the imperfect.
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4. Keep in mind that second chances are usually available. Even if you can't do something perfectly the first time, you may have the opportunity to fix it later.

5. Celebrate tiny wins. Instead of focusing on what still needs to be done, focus on your wins. Each time you finish something it's a small victory. It's important to celebrate your accomplishments - even small ones.
  • Take a moment to celebrate and say thank you. Do something special for yourself.

6. Avoid being overwhelmed by a mistake. Perfectionists can get upset when things go wrong and tend to overly blame themselves. You can take responsibility for your role in the mistake without being overwhelmed by it.
  • Learn to reframe the experience. Focus on the positive aspects, such as the lessons the mistake has taught you.
  • Keep in mind that failure is a normal part of the journey to success.
  • Avoid spending days going over the mistake in your mind. Learn to move past it.

7. Find balance in your life. Perfectionism can creep into many parts of your life. It can take over your family, relationships, and career. It's important to strive for balance.
  • Try to avoid focusing on just one aspect of your life. Instead, keep things balanced by spending time with friends, family, and coworkers.
  • Avoid neglecting important things such as your hobbies, personal health, or children.
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​8. Change your mindset. Changing how you think about things can be a powerful way to combat perfectionism. The way you view the world can influence every part of your being. Learn to find the good in everything and be happy with it.
  • Do you have an all or nothing attitude that paints everything in black or white? Or can you see the gray areas?
  • The key to avoiding perfectionism is to realize that the world isn't divided into perfect parts that can always be analyzed. Instead, it's a complicated mix that has many moving parts. The same applies to your mind.
  • Focus on making progress. Even a failure is progress because it moves you closer to finding success. Find a lesson in your failures. 

You can learn to move past perfectionism. Practice these tips. Once you free your mind from perfectionism, you'll feel happier and success will come easier to you.
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7 Tips to Beat Procrastination

2/18/2020

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​Is procrastination a serious challenge in your life? Admittedly, it can be difficult to do things we don't want to do. 

Even when we know that waiting too long will create a lot of challenges, getting started can still seem impossible. Unfortunately, when procrastinating affects your job-related tasks, it can have a negative impact on your professional career as well.

So how can you kick this annoying tendency to put things off and start getting them done instead?

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​Self-Care Begins with Self Awareness

2/13/2020

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An often-overlooked aspect of self-care is developing something that caters to your specific needs, which all begins with self-awareness. You could pick up a random self-care routine, and it might help a bit, but if you want to see the best results, you need to be constructing a plan to specifically address your own issues. 

You can’t even start to plan that until you know what those problems are. By being more self-aware, you’ll be able to easily pinpoint the root of your problems and continue on to build a plan to address that.

The first and most important step is identification. This means taking an honest, hard look at your life and figuring out what it is that you’re not happy with. It could be anything. 

You might dislike your job, you might be struggling emotionally, you might be engaged in toxic relationships, and so on. Don’t be afraid to get a little bit critical with yourself during this time. 

This is a time for honesty, not comfort. Once you know what the problem is, though, it’s time to dig a little bit deeper. The next step is analysis. At this point, you know what your problems are in your life, but that’s about it. 

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